MarkKO wrote: ↑Sat Aug 20, 2022 9:52 pmIt's got to be harder where stupid little conventions like that are held in such high regard. There really is no purpose to them beyond giving certain individuals arbitrary superiority based on nothing they have actually achieved or do but simply because of where they happen to be sitting or standing.
Makes it difficult to navigate social situations at times, especially when I'm expected to adhere to -- and uphold -- seemingly arbitrary norms that keep the fabric of daily life (in my environment) intact. I have to keep my mouth shut a lot (which is hard to do sometimes), even in situations where I'm expected to socialize and have a lot in common, belief-wise, with those around me (same God(s), same material desires, same appearances).
Though my kid is quite gregarious, I do not envy his youth. There's experiences I'm glad I only had to endure just once.
SnakePlissken wrote: ↑Mon Aug 22, 2022 8:04 amFrom the way a pretty sane doctor described it to me once was that there's suspicion that ADHD is just a different way your brain works where you learn much more by observation and experimenting at the cost of being able to sit down for extended periods of time and doing anything in a regimented setting (like public school).
Pretty much how I look at it.
As much as I hear people go on about the ills of screen time and social media, I think the root of attention "deficiencies" preceded all of that and lies elsewhere. Sometimes I wonder if many of us were
understimulated before the so-called excess of entertainment.
SnakePlissken wrote: ↑Mon Aug 22, 2022 8:04 amOn another note though, it's way over-diagnosed. A lot of kids in school are just not interested in sitting for 7 hours a day in a classroom and that's just part of being a kid.
Sadly, I've come to suspect the same goes for adults. I've a few employees over the years who could hardly sit still long enough to
look productive to sets of eyes that cared about appearances in such a way. I get outed as a poor disciplinarian because I can empathize with these folks; it was a hard transition for me when I left a manual labor job for another office job. Apparently I get up to refill my water bottle with such frequency that it warrants snide comments, from time to time.
Culican wrote: ↑Mon Aug 22, 2022 8:48 amI probably have ADHD. All of my half-started projects are monuments to that. It doesn't disturb me; it is just a natural variation, which I am sure was an adaptive trait in our evolutionary past.
It will be interesting to see what the fallout is from drugging a whole generation of kids because they allegedly have this "disorder."
Ditto, to all of this. As much as living with the boy and his quirks can frustrate me at times, it's also led to some realizations. I suppose that, as long as I'm still capable of earning income, I'm not inclined to seek a legitimate diagnosis for myself (or medicate to appear "normal"). The kid seems to dislike his own medication as it is.